I Resent My Post-Birth Body

Many women, like myself, are left with scars, stretch marks, and loose skin after giving birth and this is a reality that women themselves often try to hide, and that the media never wants to show.

After having three children I can say that I have very low self-esteem and regularly wear clothing that hides my lumps and bumps. Even nearly 4 year after birthing my last child, I still hide those scars that brought him into this world. 

We're told that we should be proud of our bodies, that we should wear our tiger stripes with pride and that we should be proud of how our bodies have grown children, but it's not has to start to resent how much your body has changed whilst also being proud of what it has achieved.

And we shouldn't resent our bodies. They have done an amazing thing. Growing a child inside it with all those hormones, the stretching and then the pushing - our bodies are made for exactly this purpose.

But I guess, when you are a self-conscious person, no praising your body is going to help with the hatred that you have towards it. I hate my body... and that makes me hate myself even more. 

I try to help my body. Going to the gym is great, but it's no quick fix. The tummy area is the hardest place to tone and lose weight from so it's hard to keep the motivation going when you don't see results.

I just want to be happy in myself. I don't even know why I wrote this post really. I guess I wanted to write that life's not always a bed of roses and that just because people look confident, that might not really be how they feel on the inside.


  1. I love your honesty. I feel exactly the same aftet having my baby 9 months ago. I am going to the gym to get my body back.

  2. Such a real insight into a issue that some many women feel but l dont think many talk about. I think now with social media its even worse and l really feel for the young girls with the way celebraties are using sexuality rather than body confidence these days.

  3. Amy Butler19:16

    I feel exactly the same, I hide my body away in baggy clothes and would desparately love to be happy with the way I am

  4. I'm so sorry that your feeling like this and I hope that you're able to overcome it. There are so many women out there who feel the same, me included some days, but I've found as I have got older, I'm more excepting of what I have.

  5. One day you will see YOUR beauty - secret is not to compare with others ( especially true famous)

  6. You should not be so hard on yourself. I think the media have a lot to answer for in this regard. They feature celebrities who have "bounced back" to their former slim figures after giving birth, without mentioning that those celebrities have access to personal trainers, private chefs and a host of other helpers, not to mention that some of them have a tummy tuck in order to lose the loose skin and excess weight on their tummies. For those of us without access to those resources, getting back in shape takes time and effort, which can be hard when you have a new little person to take care of.


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